Someday I’ll get that car, someday I’ll make that change, someday I’ll lose those last few kilograms, someday I’ll complete that course, someday I’ll start saving for that house, someday I’ll start that business, someday I’ll go on that holiday, someday I’ll find the love of my life, someday I’ll find the job of my dreams, someday I’ll make that decision…someday
Have you ever said that to yourself or maybe one step further, some day if only…. The fact is there will never be a perfect time.
We’re all guilty of this from time to time, but just be careful it’s not your mantra. This is the death rattle of a life; it just creeps up on you.
If you haven’t noticed everyone wants your attention, attention it’s that valuable. You could say that your ability to decide where your attention goes determines your success or failure.
1440, should be a very significant number to everyone on this planet. Can you guess what 1440 means? Some of you know exactly what I mean. It’s the only equal thing we have. It’s the number of minutes we have at the beginning of every day. Time the great equaliser. 1440 minutes that’s it.
The major challenge or problem we face is everyone wants a piece of your 1440 precious minutes, it’s a strictly no refund or return policy. We give that time away gladly without a second thought. You know what I mean. Working jobs that don’t bring out our best, or relationships/friendship that under different circumstances you may reconsider. Stuff that you wouldn’t accept in an earlier version of you.
Everything around you is meant to distract you, the question is, is it a valuable use of your time or not? What do I mean, watch any media and its completely based on taking your attention, you know the 1440 minutes you have daily? They would like you to invest all your time or some of your time into their cause. Keyword, “their” cause.
The question you want to ask is, has this time spent increased my value or has it created more risk?
What do I mean, well if you’ve invested time and effort acquiring a skill, thinking process, a relationship etc Were you able to translate that investment into value for yourself, your family, your health, and wellbeing, your employer or your community? Did this investment have a net positive result or did it have a net negative result? If it had a negative net effect, guess what? You just got distracted and in fact, you have given your time away for free. There’s no way to get it back, it’s gone forever and your 100% accountable.
What you may find is that your someday time will continue to be pushed out further and further until one day there are no somedays left, none, not one.
I was once told that if I wanted to understand what someday looks like or feels like, I should speak to someone that has run out of somedays.
What I invariably heard is “regret”. You think “fear” is scary try on regret. Regret that they didn’t back themselves, regret that their fear was bigger than their dream, regret that no, could’ve meant not now or not this way or not never, regret that the mistakes stopped them dead in their tracks.
Just thinking about regret is enough to depress you.
Someday needs to be today. We’ve all heard it right, “you get one go at life”, “this is not a dress rehearsal” or statements along similar lines.
It doesn’t matter what people think, what matters is what you think, you are not living someone else’s life, what might be right for someone else may not be right for you, it’s all in, its triple down, its nobody coming to help, it’s all on you right now.
I have wasted many “someday’s” and as I have gotten older I have realised that they are limited. Seeing the passing of my parents, I have had this sense of my own mortality. This has changed my perspective and I have realised it’s an all or nothing proposition. You’re either in or you’re out, its black and white or like my dad put it “you’re either on the bus or you’re off” there is no in between.
Remember, every day there are 1440 minutes we are equal there. The difference between people that make it, whatever that means to you and people that don’t, is work ethic, learned skills, determination, and resilience.
A colleague of mine at the age of 50 retired, he calls himself lucky. I call him focussed determined, and a hard worker. He had a plan, he made mistakes, he stayed educated, he backed himself, surrounded himself with a solid team and just got to it. PS His profession, a motor mechanic.
It’s not a 40hr week. And he says his lucky, wow. We were out for a ride and we saw an inexperienced cyclist. How did we know? He was climbing a hill and he was using a tall gear (making it extremely difficult).
I said, “the guy is a bit like most people heading for a goal, they don’t know what they don’t know and they don’t how to utilise the tools they already have around them”. The guy on the bike had all the gear required to make the journey easier yet, the misuse of the tools, skills and knowledge made it that much more difficult. In some circumstances that would be the end. “Its just too hard, I couldn’t do it or I tried”.
People like my friend and others like him have one thing in common, “they just out work us”; it may look like luck but it’s simply hard work, more than anyone else.
So, don’t be distracted by things like TV, social media, shopping sites, series (watching 10 seasons of your favourite show) because when you look back at a life that could have been, the feeling of regret might be hard to shake off.
There’ll always be things that could have been handle better, done better etc. 20/20 vision is always perfect in hindsight.
Where to start? Decide today, use Mel Robbins decision frame called the “5 second rule”.
How it works, If you have an impulse or what Jo Simpson calls a nudge, act on the goal, you must physically move within 5 seconds or your brain will kill the idea. And it’s gone forever, that moment, gone.
I’ll give you an example, I want to call a client to present an idea, rather than ruminating on it act on it. Mel Robbins suggests counting yourself down, 5 – 4 – 3 – 2 – 1 GO. Just GO. Take ACTION.
Is now a good time to create that “Someday’. Leif Babin and Jocko Willink authors of Extreme Ownership say it perfectly, “Get after it.
I’m saying to you, “Get After It”, and make that someday, today.
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