Monthly Archives: February 2017

Don’t Let 2017 be another “Some-Day I’ll”, Year

Someday I’ll get that car, someday I’ll make that change, someday I’ll lose those last few kilograms, someday I’ll complete that course, someday I’ll start saving for that house, someday I’ll start that business, someday I’ll go on that holiday, someday I’ll find the love of my life, someday I’ll find the job of my dreams, someday I’ll make that decision…someday

Have you ever said that to yourself or maybe one step further, some day if only…. The fact is there will never be a perfect time.Image result for some day

We’re all guilty of this from time to time, but just be careful it’s not your mantra. This is the death rattle of a life; it just creeps up on you.

If you haven’t noticed everyone wants your attention, attention it’s that valuable. You could say that your ability to decide where your attention goes determines your success or failure.

1440, should be a very significant number to everyone on this planet. Can you guess what 1440 means? Some of you know exactly what I mean. It’s the only equal thing we have.  It’s the number of minutes we have at the beginning of every day. Time the great equaliser. 1440 minutes that’s it.

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The major challenge or problem we face is everyone wants a piece of your 1440 precious minutes, it’s a strictly no refund or return policy. We give that time away gladly without a second thought. You know what I mean. Working jobs that don’t bring out our best, or relationships/friendship that under different circumstances you may reconsider. Stuff that you wouldn’t accept in an earlier version of you.

Everything around you is meant to distract you, the question is, is it a valuable use of your time or not? What do I mean, watch any media and its completely based on taking your attention, you know the 1440 minutes you have daily? They would like you to invest all your time or some of your time into their cause.  Keyword, “their” cause.

The question you want to ask is, has this time spent increased my value or has it created more risk?

What do I mean, well if you’ve invested time and effort acquiring a skill, thinking process, a relationship etc Were you able to translate that investment into value for yourself, your family, your health, and wellbeing, your employer or your community? Did this investment have a net positive result or did it have a net negative result? If it had a negative net effect, guess what? You just got distracted and in fact, you have given your time away for free. There’s no way to get it back, it’s gone forever and your 100% accountable.

What you may find is that your someday time will continue to be pushed out further and further until one day there are no somedays left, none, not one.

I was once told that if I wanted to understand what someday looks like or feels like, I should speak to someone that has run out of somedays.

What I invariably heard is “regret”. You think “fear” is scary try on regret. Regret that they didn’t back themselves, regret that their fear was bigger than their dream, regret that no, could’ve meant not now or not this way or not never, regret that the mistakes stopped them dead in their tracks.

Just thinking about regret is enough to depress you.

Someday needs to be today. We’ve all heard it right, “you get one go at life”, “this is not a dress rehearsal” or statements along similar lines.

It doesn’t matter what people think, what matters is what you think, you are not living someone else’s life, what might be right for someone else may not be right for you, it’s all in, its triple down, its nobody coming to help, it’s all on you right now.

I have wasted many “someday’s” and as I have gotten older I have realised that they are limited. Seeing the passing of my parents, I have had this sense of my own mortality.  This has changed my perspective and I have realised it’s an all or nothing proposition. You’re either in or you’re out, its black and white or like my dad put it “you’re  either on the bus or you’re off” there is no in between.

Remember, every day there are 1440 minutes we are equal there. The difference between people that make it, whatever that means to you and people that don’t, is work ethic, learned skills, determination, and resilience.

A colleague of mine at the age of 50 retired, he calls himself lucky. I call him focussed determined, and a hard worker. He had a plan, he made mistakes, he stayed educated, he backed himself, surrounded himself with a solid team and just got to it. PS His profession, a motor mechanic.

It’s not a 40hr week. And he says his lucky, wow. We were out for a ride and we saw an inexperienced cyclist. How did we know? He was climbing a hill and he was using a tall gear (making it extremely difficult).

I said, “the guy is a bit like most people heading for a goal, they don’t know what they don’t know and they don’t how to utilise the tools they already have around them”. The guy on the bike had all the gear required to make the journey easier yet, the misuse of the tools, skills and knowledge made it that much more difficult. In some circumstances that would be the end. “Its just too hard, I couldn’t do it or I tried”.Gary Tremolada team work leadership coach

People like my friend and others like him have one thing in common, “they just out work us”; it may look like luck but it’s simply hard work, more than anyone else.

So, don’t be distracted by things like TV, social media, shopping sites, series (watching 10 seasons of your favourite show) because when you look back at a life that could have been, the feeling of regret might be hard to shake off.

There’ll always be things that could have been handle better, done better etc. 20/20 vision is always perfect in hindsight.

Where to start? Decide today, use Mel Robbins decision frame called the “5 second rule”.

How it works, If you have an impulse or what Jo Simpson calls a nudge, act on the goal, you must physically move within 5 seconds or your brain will kill the idea. And it’s gone forever, that moment, gone.

I’ll give you an example, I want to call a client to present an idea, rather than ruminating on it act on it. Mel Robbins suggests counting yourself down, 5 – 4 – 3 – 2 – 1 GO. Just GO. Take ACTION.

Is now a good time to create that “Someday’. Leif Babin and Jocko Willink authors of Extreme Ownership say it perfectly, “Get after it.

I’m saying to you, “Get After It”, and make that someday, today.

 

Images credit: someday by Doghousediaries

Professional Reading/Listening list for 2016

Professional Development is not a maybe I’ll get to it. It’s absolutely critical to your professional and financial life.

Reading, seminars, listening to books are invaluable tools that broaden your paradigm and open you up to new ways of thinking and viewing the world.

From a work perspective what PD does is it puts you in the “value” up scale not the “risk” scale.

Below is a list of audiobooks that I have listened to in 2016. In total, I have listened to well over 480 audio books in 13 years and that does not include ongoing formal education and seminars/coaching I’ve attended and completed.

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Some might be thinking, “I’m just too busy” and can’t fit another “to do task” in the list. You know what not many can, so listening and or read in N.E.T (no extra time events), like commuting and exercising.

The fact is that one of these books or classes are run by some of the world’s best instructors. They may give you an insight that will change your life both professional and personal life forever. Biggest investment you can make is in yourself. Get to.

Get to.

2016 Professional Reading Author MM/DD/YYYY Total Hrs
1 Retire Inspired Chris Hogan 12-26-16 9:24:00
2 Dave Ramsey’s The Total Money Makeover | Summary & Review Ant Hive Media 12-26-16 0:36:00
2 The 4 Disciplines of Execution Sean Covey, Chris McChesney, Jim Huling 12-26-16 8:27:00
3 How You Decide: The Science of Human Decision Making The Great Courses 12-26-16 11:50:00
4 Influence The Great Courses 12-08-16 6:11:00
5 The Psychology of High Self-Esteem Nathaniel Branden 11-21-16 5:31:00
6 Elevate: Self Awareness Through Courage, Potential, and Fulfillment Dr. Keppen Laszlo 10-10-16 7:56:00
7 Naked Statistics: Stripping the Dread from the Data Charles Wheelan 10-10-16 10:48:00
8 I Know What to Do, So Why Don’t I Do It? Nick Hall 10-10-16 10:05:00
9 The Science of Mindfulness: A Research-Based Path to Well-Being The Great Courses 10-10-16 13:57:00
10 Job Interview Patterns Aleksey Sinyagin 09-08-2016 2:13:00
11 How to Build a Blog that Counts Raj Subramanyam 09-08-2016 5:42:00
12 The Little Book of Persuasion: Defend Yourself by Becoming a Skilled Persuader Sia Mohajer 09-08-2016 2:27:00
13 The Coaching Habit Michael Bungay Stanier 09-08-2016 3:10:00
14 Fanatical Prospecting Jeb Blount 09-08-2016 8:26:00
15 Algorithms to Live By Brian Christian, Tom Griffiths 09-08-2016 11:50:00
16 It’s Your Ship D. Michael Abrashoff 09-08-2016 6:24:00
17 The Greatness Within You Les Brown Les Brown 09-08-2016 4:46:00
18 The Way of the SEAL PDF Mark Divine, Allyson Edelhurtz Machate 09-08-2016 7:50:00
19 The Neuroscience of Fair Play: Why We (Usually) Follow the Golden Rule Donald W. Pfaff, Ph.D. 07-21-16 7:41:00
20 Do You Talk Funny? David Nihill 07-21-16 4:12:00
21 Hypnosis for business William Lockhart 07-21-16 4:10:00
22 Hypnosis: Instant Hypnosis Secrets You Need to Know Dane Xander 07-21-16 0:42:00
23 Big Results: The Steps to Getting the Results You Want, and Why Setting Goals Never Works Robert Greene 07-21-16 0:38:00
24 Conversation Tactics: Wittiness, Banter, Likability: Strategies to Command Social Situations, Book 3 Patrick King 07-21-16 2:32:00
25 Options Trading: A Beginner’s Guide to Options Trading: Learn How to Make Money with Stock Options Matthew Maybury 07-21-16 1:24:00
26 The Energy of Words: Use the Vibration of Language to Manifest the Life You Desire Michelle Arbeau 07-21-16 7:28:00
27 Anyone Can Write Books: Get Motivated, Get Inspired, Conquer Your Limitations, and Write Some Books! Dominic Cruz 07-21-16 0:30:00
28 Law of Attraction Harrold Glenn 07-21-16 0:50:00
29 Ask: The Counterintuitive Online Formula to Discover Exactly What Your Customers Want to Buy…Create a Mass of Raving Fans…and Take Any Business to the Next Level Ryan Levesque 06-16-16 6:13:00
30 15 Secrets Successful People Know About Time Management Kevin Kruse 06-16-16 3:10:00
31 Managing Projects Harvard Business Review 06-16-16 1:11:00
32 Triggers Marshall Goldsmith, Mark Reiter 06-16-16 6:36:00
33 Are You Fully Charged? Tom Rath 05-21-16 3:22:00
34 Negotiating the Impossible: How to Break Deadlocks and Resolve Ugly Conflicts (Without Money or Muscle) Deepak Malhotra 05-21-16 6:59:00
35 The Essential Workplace Conflict Handbook: A Quick and Handy Resource for Any Manager, Team Leader, HR Professional, or Anyone Who Wants to Resolve Disputes and Increase Productivity  Barbara Mitchell, Cornelia Gamlem  05-21-16 4:25:00
36 Living with a SEAL Jesse Itzler 05-21-16 5:18:00
37 The Secret to Success Eric Thomas 04-29-16 5:29:00
38 Now Is Your Moment of Greatness!: 30 Rags to Riches Stories That Will Inspire You Maxwell Harris 04-29-16 3:00:00
39 #AskGaryVee Gary Vaynerchuk 04-29-16 11:37:00
40 Living Forward Michael Hyatt, Daniel Harkavy 04-29-16 4:20:00
41 How to Talk to Anyone: 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships Leil Lowndes 03-04-2016 8:59:00
42 Acing the Interview: How to Ask and Answer the Questions That Will Get You the Job! Tony Beshara 03-04-2016 9:05:00
43 Flawless Consulting: A Guide to Getting Your Expertise Used, Third Edition Peter Block 03-04-2016 9:21:00
44 The Like Switch PDF Jack Schafer, Marvin Karlins 03-04-2016 7:40:00
Hours 264:25:00
Days 11.5 days
Weekly 5hrs
N.E.T No Extra Time

2017 reading list goal is to get to 60 audio books.